Becoming a wife – A Christian perspective
As you are probably reading this, you are either soon to be married or probably find yourself married – whichever case it is, my heart for this post is to inspire women to set their eyes on the role in which they will/do stand as a wife. We can get so caught up in the idea of being married and ‘finally’ have met someone to spend the rest of our lives with, but negate the whole purpose and role of being a wife – one that is way more exciting and raw than superficial feelings will ever measure.
I have always walked around with the thought of- “my husband is going to be so blessed with me as a wife and God is going to shower so much favour over him because of me”. Now this was purely derived from Proverbs 18:22 with a bit of cheekiness added to it. Being married to one incredible godly man, I have found that I experience way more of the Lord’s goodness and favour just by being connected to my husband. I am the one who found an incredibly good thing. I am the one who is so blessed and loved. The Lord surely accomplished the good old Proverbs in my husband’s life, but as for me, I feel as though I am finding constant riches in this gift of marriage every single day.
To be a wife is such a special and very much sacred calling. It is not one to be taken lightly or flippantly as the world does. You are to honour and serve your husband – literally laying down your life daily for him. Say goodbye to all those selfish desires of me, myself and I – it is now him, him and some more about him. In other words, as unto my husband, so unto God. Your husband is your head and the head of your husband is God. By serving and honouring your husband, you are serving and honouring God. Your new ministry unto God, is your husband, full stop.
How do we get to serving and loving our husbands well? If you try this in your own strength, I can guarantee that you will not get far. Only the Lord can help us with this one! Strive to look more and more like Christ. He is our example! Spend time with Him daily. Seek to know Him and become like Him. Fill your life up with Christ, so that the abundance within you is all Him, and flows out to reach and cover your husband – ultimately pulling the two of you closer in marriage. With this, as Christ reflects in your life and heart, serving and loving your husband will come naturally. It will feel like the greatest pleasure this whole world can hold. Not to say there will be no mistakes, but this gift will not feel like a burden.
Now, let’s love our husbands well. Carry his best interest at heart and always have your desire set on serving him before serving yourself. A selfless love goes to depths that cannot be measured and will always reach in and fill the gap between a husband and a wife. A tried and true golden piece of advice from me to you <3